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Aktualisiert: 30. März 2023

In our modern age, we are often consumed by the noise and chaos of daily life. Our days are filled with endless distractions and responsibilities, leaving little room for self-examination and reflection. Yet, without taking the time to truly understand ourselves, how can we hope to navigate the complexities of our relationships and careers with ease and authenticity? The truth is, self-reflection is a vital tool for achieving personal growth and fulfillment. It allows us to identify our values, goals, and desires, and to better understand our strengths and weaknesses. Through self-reflection, we can cultivate a deeper sense of self-awareness and develop the resilience and adaptability needed to thrive in today's fast-paced world. In this article, we'll explore the benefits of self-reflection, provide tips for getting started, and offer insight into how this practice can transform your life for the better.

But some of you will think, wait, what is that even supposed to mean, "knowing yourself"? Of course, I know myself. After all, I am inside my head, and my body all the time. I am me. If anyone knows me, it's me. But in truth, of course, we often don't know ourselves as well as we think we do. Who doesn't know that situation, when you're triggered by something, you suddenly get angry or sad. Sometimes things that happen, or things that people say, can irritate or unsettle us, and we don't even really know why. Those are the moments that show us that we don't know ourselves as well as we'd like to think. Or think of the tragic case, when someone signs up for a career only to realize, ten years later, that what they have been doing, never really suited them, to begin with.

That's exactly the sort of self-knowledge that I am after. I think we know ourselves when we know what suits us, what matters to us, where we want to go, and what is our calling in life. Of course, you cannot expect to learn all these things simply by listening to your inner voice. But practicing to hear and understand that inner voice is an important part of the journey. And it also helps to avoid making these sorts of decisions that, years later, we might come to regret.

Only if we know our own values, goals, and desires and understand our strengths and weaknesses, can we live in such a way, as is good for us. Through self-reflection, we can learn to cultivate a deeper sense of self-knowledge and develop the sort of resistance and adaptability, that we need to overcome the challenges of our times.

It sometimes feels to me like we have forgotten to teach people the art of living. Our education focuses on information and technical skill. It is aimed

at preparing you for the technical challenges of your life as a worker. But our education completely disregards the fact that life is more than just work.

And it also disregards the fact that in order to be able to work effectively for your entire life, you have to be able to withstand the forces that constantly tear at you and pull you down. In our formula for success at work, we talk about competence regarding the content of our work. But we leave out of the equation, competence regarding how to actually live, persevere, prosper, and strive under these circumstances. Our formula does not include advice on how to live well. For all the sophistication of modern Western society, our living skills are meager when compared to our ancestors.

Self-reflection is one of those skills whose acquisition is codified in the informal education of many Non-Western societies. Things like meditation, mindfulness, and yoga. All these things help individuals know and understand themselves better. And with that self-knowledge grows our ability to understand others better as well. To shift perspective and reconstruct other people’s worldviews. So, there is not just an appeal to individual improvement here. Being more self-reflective also means that you can be a more beneficial part of your community. Moreover, self-reflection is a vital skill for healthy relationships and effective communication. When we are more self-aware, we are better able to understand and express our needs, feelings, and perspectives, and to listen attentively and empathetically to others. We become less defensive and reactive, and more open and curious. We can also manage conflicts better, as we are more likely to seek win-win solutions, rather than imposing our views on others.

There are many ways to cultivate self-reflection, depending on your personality, preferences, and goals. Some people find journaling, meditation, or therapy helpful, while others prefer nature walks, creative expression, or deep conversations. The key is to find a method that works for you and to practice it regularly, even when you don't feel like it. It's also important to be gentle with yourself, and to celebrate your progress, no matter how small.

Self-reflection is a rewarding journey of personal growth that requires practice and dedication. While it cannot be taught formally, there are helpful tips and suggestions to aid in the process. It's similar to meditation or prayer, where the method and goal can only be found through doing it. You can learn the process of self-reflection by making time for introspection, practicing mindfulness, asking open-ended questions, seeking feedback, embracing discomfort, and practicing self-compassion. As you engage in the practice of self-reflection, you'll begin to see positive changes within yourself and better understand your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. The transformative process of self-reflection helps you grow and develop and ultimately leads to a deeper understanding of yourself and the world around you.

1. Make time for introspection: Set aside some time every day to reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. This could be through journaling, meditation, or simply sitting quietly and thinking.

2. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. It can help you become more aware of your inner world and improve your self-reflection.

3. Ask yourself questions: When reflecting, ask yourself open-ended questions such as "What am I feeling right now?" or "What is the root cause of this issue?" This can help you dive deeper into your thoughts and emotions.

4. Seek feedback: Ask trusted friends, family members, or a therapist for feedback on your behavior and thought patterns. They may be able to offer insights that you haven't considered before.

5. Embrace discomfort: Self-reflection can be uncomfortable as it requires you to confront your thoughts and emotions. However, it is through discomfort that we grow and learn more about ourselves.

6. Practice self-compassion: Be kind and understanding with yourself throughout the process. Remember that self-reflection is a journey, and it's okay to make mistakes or feel uncertain.

Remember that becoming more self-reflective is not something that happens overnight. It's a transformative process. You want self-reflection to become a habit - something you don't have to think about or actively encourage. You want self-reflectiveness to become a part of your personality. And these things require time.

Self-reflection is not just a desirable skill, but a necessary one for personal and social well-being. In our busy lives, it's easy to lose sight of what really matters to us, to become disconnected from our emotions, values, and aspirations. Without regular introspection, we risk falling into autopilot mode, reacting to life rather than creating it, and accepting the status quo rather than pursuing our dreams. We may also miss opportunities for growth and learning, as we fail to learn from our mistakes, acknowledge our strengths and weaknesses, and set realistic goals.

Here's a list of benefits that come with being more self-reflected:

1. Personal growth: Self-reflection allows us to understand ourselves better, including our strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs. By reflecting on our experiences, we can learn from our mistakes and make changes to improve our lives.

2. Emotional intelligence: Self-reflection can help us develop emotional intelligence, which is the ability to understand and manage our own emotions and those of others. This skill is essential for healthy relationships and effective communication.

3. Better decision-making: When we take the time to reflect on our thoughts and feelings, we can make more informed decisions. Self-reflection helps us become more aware of our biases and assumptions, which can influence our choices.

4. Improved relationships: By being more self-aware and emotionally intelligent, we can have more fulfilling relationships with others. We can better understand their perspectives, communicate more effectively, and empathize with their experiences.

5. Reduced stress and anxiety: Self-reflection can help us manage stress and anxiety by providing a space to process our emotions and identify coping strategies.

But self-reflection is not a one-size-fits-all solution, nor an easy one to

develop. It requires time, patience, courage, and discipline. It involves asking tough questions, facing uncomfortable truths, challenging our assumptions, and experimenting with new ways of being. It also requires a supportive environment, where we can share our insights and struggles.

For anyone looking for quick solutions, this can be frustrating. Both because it means truly looking in the mirror and allowing yourself to see even the dark places, but also because it is one of those processes where progress is hard to track. In my experience, when you try to change who you are, you always feel like it's not working while you're at it, and then you realize that it actually worked, once you stop thinking about it. So, don't give up because you have trouble seeing results. What matters is showing up and making the effort. At some point, your subconscious will do the rest.

But remember, changing yourself is not about becoming someone else. It's about becoming the best version of yourself. It's about learning who you really are and then turning your true core outward, to let the world see it. It's about developing and cultivating that core of your identity to become a true individual and a good person.

I started studying philosophy when I was 21 years old. Through philosophy and later through actively challenging myself and broadening my horizon of competencies and perspective I grew much more self-reflective. I learned to listen to myself, to uncover that inner compass that tells me where to go, and to hear my calling despite all the distracting noise of modern life. I learned to see myself in a more objective light. And that helped me allow other people in and share my inner world with them. My journey of self-reflection yielded a better understanding of other people and a healthier way of interacting with them. I am infinitely grateful for the opportunity to be able to go on that journey and I know that it was a privilege. And because of my experiences I would implore everyone who has the time and the privilege to do so: Go on that journey and get to know yourself.

I hope you enjoyed reading as much as I did writing. Thank you so much and I'll see you in the next one.

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